A typical agent in New York gets 400 query letters a month. Of those, they might ask to read 3-4 manuscripts, and of those, they might ask to represent 1.
Over time, quality work will lead to an audience for your work.
All characters come from people I know, but after the initial inspiration, I tend to modify the characters so they fit with the story.
None of my characters are rich or famous, and the situations they find themselves in could happen to anyone.
By reading a lot of novels in a variety of genres, and asking questions, it's possible to learn how things are done - the mechanics of writing, so to speak - and which genres and authors excel in various areas.
Focus in on the genre you want to write, and read books in that genre. A LOT of books by a variety of authors. And read with questions in your mind.
I do not use profanity in my novels. My characters all go to church.
I don't know that love changes. People change. Circumstances change.
I have certain moral parameters that I do not cross in writing; I don't write about adultery or kids having premarital sex.
I read over a hundred books a year and have done so since I was fifteen years old, and every book I've read has taught me something.
I suppose I'm most influenced by any good, commercial writer. I learn from everyone.
I suppose more than anything, it's the way of life in this part of the country that influences my writing. In Eastern North Carolina, with the exception of Wilmington, most people live in small towns.
I think that enduring, committed love between a married couple, along with raising children, is the most noble act anyone can aspire to. It is not written about very much.
I think that men know how to romance a woman and most do it well, at least for a time, otherwise women wouldn't marry them. The problem is that most of them begin to rest on their laurels.
Above all, a query letter is a sales pitch and it is the single most important page an unpublished writer will ever write. It's the first impression and will either open the door or close it. It's that important, so don't mess it up. Mine took 17 drafts and two weeks to write.