We religious controllers control in the name of Jesus and it is really painful to people.
What happens is that people who are very religious but who are not in touch with reality, cannot be spiritual.
You are controlling because I want you to do it, not because of the situation or what needs to be done.
The primary symptom of a controller is denial, that is I can't see its symptoms in myself.
A spiritual person is also in touch with his or her own reality, feelings and thoughts, and the reality of the people around him or her, not projecting on them.
A lot of us have jobs where we need to give people structure but that is different from controlling.
I was taught that pain is bad.
Beneath all of these addictions is this disease, this control disease which is the mark of our society.
Feelings are like a color chart that God has given us.
I am six feet tall. I am not supposed to be afraid.
I grew up and I became very successful at what I did as a young man. I became a work addict because this was the only way I could get any relief from this pain.
I have learned to like myself for the first time and to have some serenity.
I learned that the purpose of the Twelve Steps is to do the will of God.